Recently, I mentioned the need to avoid imagining motivations behind the actions and ideas of others. This is a big deal. Here’s how it often plays out on church teams… You’re in a meeting or rehearsal, and make a what you consider to be a constructive comment or put an idea on the floor to be considered. Someone else chimes in with a different opinion, and the group “sides” with them. You spend the car ride home having imaginary arguments with the individual or envisioning scenarios to explain why they are out to get you. In the end, you’re even more worked up because you’ve ramped it up into a big deal, and fought it over and over in your mind…again…and again…and again… and again…and again…

Here’s the truth… Most people don’t have the time (or the interest) to spend their lives malevolently plotting your downfall. It may be hard for us to admit in this narcissistic age that we live in, but people have their own problems and we don’t play such a central role in their lives that they would devote the energy to undermining us or things that we want to get done. Think of all that you could accomplish if you redirected all of the energy that you are using to fight imaginary battles…

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